I felt this way at uni. I met a lot of nice people, but I always felt nobody was exactly my vibe. It didn't help that I was othered by peers from different backgrounds.
But ultimately, the quiet life was so key. I re-discovered hobbies, was forced to process my past, and became more comfortable in my own skin. It's just a small phase of life, and everyone I know felt like this in some season of uni. If you really want to put yourself out there, try Facebook groups or joining a society/club. Chin up hun x
ohh yess, i'm going out more with other friends outside of uni but it's just hard seeing groups of friends laughing together. thanks for the advice! :)
I understand completely. I transferred from community college to a uni and the adjustment hit me like a Mac truck. I was 21 (still am) and was scarred because of the fact that I was older than most people. Making friends in your 20s can be hard, I hope that you find your way!🩷🩷
This was me for most of my time at uni. I'm about to graduate now but in my first year I was completely alone. Like I felt infectious because nobody was talking to me. It was the most demoralising thing ever but once I accepted that it was my fate, it somehow changed. I had one friend who really brought me out of my shell. It may take time, it may not happen at uni but someone will come around. Like just be yourself and the right people will come.
I felt this way in school, too. It’s so hard for me to insert myself into new places. My partner is the opposite. “Every stranger can be a future friend.” “Interesting people are interested.” “It’s not hard to learn names, you just don’t care.” I know this makes my partner sound like a total dick but he’s the nicest, most welcoming, friends with everyone kind of person. Idk I think he’s on to something.
i 10000% understand and the lack of community was a big reason i moved to online study. it is okay to feel sad about this, but please know you will find your people. whether it’s at uni or not. 💗 much love
i hope a good person will approach you one day, the one that is the best for you, the one who sticks with you to the end. you're never alone. its honestly better to not have friends than feeling drained and left out being around "friends"
ahhh thanks so much for your answer! i do have friends outside uni, but this place is so overwhelming. i feel like everybody knows each other and i’m just an outsider.
but i also do agree with the last thing you mentioned
you’re not alone, i totally understand your point and it’s hard for me to make friends as someone who’s in their 20’s as well. It’s hard to find people you can really connect with nowadays
I felt this way at uni. I met a lot of nice people, but I always felt nobody was exactly my vibe. It didn't help that I was othered by peers from different backgrounds.
But ultimately, the quiet life was so key. I re-discovered hobbies, was forced to process my past, and became more comfortable in my own skin. It's just a small phase of life, and everyone I know felt like this in some season of uni. If you really want to put yourself out there, try Facebook groups or joining a society/club. Chin up hun x
ohh yess, i'm going out more with other friends outside of uni but it's just hard seeing groups of friends laughing together. thanks for the advice! :)
I understand completely. I transferred from community college to a uni and the adjustment hit me like a Mac truck. I was 21 (still am) and was scarred because of the fact that I was older than most people. Making friends in your 20s can be hard, I hope that you find your way!🩷🩷
thank you!!! :))
this is me. we can be friends
i gladly accept
This was me for most of my time at uni. I'm about to graduate now but in my first year I was completely alone. Like I felt infectious because nobody was talking to me. It was the most demoralising thing ever but once I accepted that it was my fate, it somehow changed. I had one friend who really brought me out of my shell. It may take time, it may not happen at uni but someone will come around. Like just be yourself and the right people will come.
thanks a lot for the advice!! i'm glad it changed for you :))
I felt this way in school, too. It’s so hard for me to insert myself into new places. My partner is the opposite. “Every stranger can be a future friend.” “Interesting people are interested.” “It’s not hard to learn names, you just don’t care.” I know this makes my partner sound like a total dick but he’s the nicest, most welcoming, friends with everyone kind of person. Idk I think he’s on to something.
i'm not gonna lie...i 100% agree with him!
i 10000% understand and the lack of community was a big reason i moved to online study. it is okay to feel sad about this, but please know you will find your people. whether it’s at uni or not. 💗 much love
i miss online study soooo much! the pandemic was awful for most people but it gave my anxiety a huge social break.
much love to you too 🩷🩷🩷
i hope a good person will approach you one day, the one that is the best for you, the one who sticks with you to the end. you're never alone. its honestly better to not have friends than feeling drained and left out being around "friends"
ahhh thanks so much for your answer! i do have friends outside uni, but this place is so overwhelming. i feel like everybody knows each other and i’m just an outsider.
but i also do agree with the last thing you mentioned
you’re not alone, i totally understand your point and it’s hard for me to make friends as someone who’s in their 20’s as well. It’s hard to find people you can really connect with nowadays
ohhh it’s definitely hard asf! even more than in your 10s 🥲
i feel the same exact things, making friends in your 20's is super difficult, and the university environment doesn't help at all.
we are in this together 🥲